Pathological Liars

There are certain kinds of duplicities that I can understand; the closet, for example, is one of them. I've been guilty of this, and while it lasted it was not pretty. Nonetheless, I'm out of it, and am so glad to have done so. Having gone through the process, I empathize with those who come out and feel the need to reinvent themselves, usually in an effort to be more true to who they are on the inside. What I don't understand, though, is the attempt to hide an entire part of one's past in the process of self reinvention. Of course, this is largely futile because the truth always comes out, especially in a closed universe such as college where everyone has overlapping circles of friends.

Aggravating is the fact that the attempt is directed at me. Aside from insulting my intelligence, this person has demonstrated to me that he is immature and idiotic to boot. And to think, I've been nothing but kind and civil in the past. He and I joined the same singing group, but due to circumstances, he didn't have a good time. Regardless, I'd like to think that a mark of maturity is the ability to separate the person from the circumstance and maintain civility. On both counts, he has failed miserably. I suppose I could have seen this coming; I have learned how this man treated other people in the group, acting like a spoiled brat most of the time while lying through his teeth for all of the rest.

The whole world knows this man is gay. I hope he realizes that, and also realizes that no one gives half a rat's ass. Despite this, he tries to hide/deny any association he has had with the singing group or people associated with it in the past, going as far as ignoring facebook-friend requests and casual eye contact on the street. For him to think that he can openly date a good friend of mine now but still carry on ignoring me is rather juvenile. While I can empathize with this man's desire to wipe the plate, hide the skeletons, and paint himself a new gay face, it's stupid to do so by blithely denying any association with people who knew him from before. That's not coming out--that's just fucked up.

Deep down, I fear for my good friend and dread his ability to always find the most duplicitous of drama queens to carry on relationships. This kid, in particular, is just bad news. I don't care how much he wants to reinvent himself; he can dress up shit with nice clothes and mask the stench with perfume, but at the end of the day, it's still shit.